The Best Yes:  Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands by Lysa Terkeurst.

 

Summary from Google Books:

Are you living with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule and aching with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul?

Lysa TerKeurst is learning that there is a big difference between saying yes to everyone and saying yes to God. In The Best Yes she will help you:

• Cure the disease to please with a biblical understanding of the command to love.
• Escape the guilt of disappointing others by learning the secret of the small no.
• Overcome the agony of hard choices by embracing a wisdom based decision-making process.
• Rise above the rush of endless demands and discover your best yes today.

 

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MY NOTES

 

Does a “YES” make sense in each of these areas?

• Spiritually?
• Financially?
• Physically?

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Because whatever (stressed out) attitude you bring to the decision and the situation that follows will be multiplied!

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The Word of God addresses my approach.

The Ways of God address my attitude.

The Wonder of God provides my assurance.

There is no such thing as a PERFECT DECISION!!

Five parts to making a decision:

• Trusting in God – place your desire under His authority.
• Analyze the decision.
• Make the decision.
• Own the decision.
• Trusting in God – to work good even from not so good parts.

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The space between our expectations and our reality is a fertile field, and it’s the perfect place to grow a bumper crop of disappointment.

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Every “YES” answer comes with a list of expectations.  If you do not know what those expectations are, you can not possibly meet them.  It’s crucial to identify the expectations before giving a “YES”.

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Determine if the expectations we are agreeing to with this “YES” are really realistic:

• Will it feel thrilling two weeks, two months and/or six months from now?
• Do any of the expectations that come from this yes feel forced or frantic?
• Could any part of this yes be tied to people pleasing?
• Which wise people in my life would think this is a good idea?
• Are there any facts I try to avoid or hide discussing this with my wise advisors?

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What makes an expectation unrealistic?

• My time.
• My ability.
• My money.
• My passion.
• My season.